As a self-professed sensitive-soul living in a society where much of the philosophy is based on ‘sucking it up and toughing it out’ it can be rough out there. If you’re also a sensitive soul then you know that we can often times find ourselves at the end of many jokes, crazy looks or insults. This is especially if you, like myself, are one to wear your heart on your sleeve or express feelings (about pretty much anything). It can get to be pretty tough to maneuver in such an insensitive world.
As highly sensitive people, we tend to overthink and over analyze situations. Thoughts of what happened weeks ago can roll around in our memories for ever and I know that if I don’t catch myself, I can mull over a simple conversation for hours. It seems that sensitive souls are forever ‘in their feelings’.
There are times that I can find myself trying to show the world that I’m tough by being less of a sensitive person as I tend to focus on the negative aspects of possessing a sensitive soul. Which for me include using it as a crutch to not take advances or speak up when I need to and too often staying nice and comfy in my own head space. But since living inside my head isn’t truly living I’m often berating myself to get outside and play. Also, for whatever reason many people believe that being sensitive also means that you’re some sort of door mat and unfortunately, I believed this lie for years!
But, it’s definitely not all bad and here are three good reasons why:
We can give the world what it’s missing…
I can remember a time I was on a date and the guy looked at me and stated, ‘you’re just so different, I don’t know, you’re so soft’. Meaning, I had a softness about my demeanor, as many sensitive souls do. As mentioned above the world is growing more and more devoid of people that connect with and can maturely express their true feelings. The world seems to shun those that aren’t afraid of exhibiting some form of humanness. Showing up as a sensitive soul in a cold cold world can prove that there is nothing wrong with being open to embracing all of who you are.
We easily have empathy for others…
Being able to empathize and engage with others can many times lead to deeper connections and relationships for those that take the time to get to know us. Because, as a sensitive soul you can relate to those that are hurting or other deeply feeling beings you can connect easily to that part of them. And if you can’t relate you know how to be there for others, to be a shoulder to cry on or that friend that won’t judge them when they come to you will issues. In many cases we serve to bring balance to difficult situations because we have that special and unique ability to be empathetic to anthers plight.
We have the freedom to engage with the world on our on terms…
There doesn’t have to be a fear of showing the world who we are because we sort of can’t help it! We can choose to embrace the beauty of being a sensitive soul and deep feeler and ultimately live without fear of judgement or ridicule if we choose. Connecting deeper to our feelings, emotions and intuitions gives us a surety about moving forward in the world that someone more unattached would have. Ultimately, our feelings are indicators so they won’t rule us, but understanding them brings more clarity to life.
Not everyone will understand you – and not everyone should. There are so many different people in this world and each has their own coping mechanisms. People that are not in tune with their feelings may not understand how a simple conversation or photo can create extremely deep emotions and that’s okay.
So if you’ve ever beaten yourself up for being too, ‘in your feelings’ know that there is nothing wrong with being a sensitive person, in fact without us the world would be a worse place. You are needed. You are just the way God created you to be so embrace it!